Repression and Self Control

Subjugation is something we all do. The tyranny of our repression can either make us or break us. Repressive memories often lead to dominate behaviors, ultimately leading to cruelty. Whether it is someone else or self, this cruelty will display in your behaviors, causing you to lose self-control.

Despotism is common. Throughout our life, we experience things, or learn something that puts doubt and fear in our minds. Instead of facing the problem head on – there and then – many people will repress the feelings of their emotions, which ultimately lead to unkindness, malice, spite, heartlessness and so on. Their callous behaviors reflect on other people, but mostly these thoughts and actions --- rule you.

One of the best ways to stop repressing memories and face your problem is to ask questions of self.

We all need to feel close to someone, so the first question you might ask - at what time a person gets close to me; do I feel as though this person is a part of me?

You might wonder why would anyone think of this question or ask the question. The fact is by finding the answer to this question, which is rooted in your subliminal mind, thus you can find hidden messages that will explain away your behaviors and habits that hinder you from developing complete self-control.

Because we live in a world that forces us to dehumanize or desensitize self to survive, we must work against the violence, sex, crime, wars, et cetera, including the ones that take place in our mind. We can do this by asking questions of self to discover the hidden parts of repressed memories we store in our subliminal mind.

You might ask – do you feel comfortable with self? In public, do you feel attentive to other people’s reactions? For instance, if someone stares at you, do you feel angered or do you feel comfortable with self that you can walk away and not think about this person staring at you, or way? If you can walk away and not worry about why people stare at you, you have a degree of self-control established. People are going to be who they are until they too take the steps to develop into a mature person.

You might ask – do I know my weaknesses and my strengths? This question is very important. If you know your weaknesses and strengths, you can easily discover what triggers you and stay clear of that object or person to build strength. We have to say, NO. Saying no, to what triggers us will make us stronger.

If the trigger is unavoidable, thus, we have to learn to accept and move on with our life without allowing the triggering person or object interrupts our life. This is a form of desensitizing that we must do in order to maintain self-control. We do not want to become immune to badness, such as violence, illicit sex, crime, et cetera. We must move away from bad to find good, which included in this good is self-control. Self-control is one of the fruitages of love.

Each day make it a habit to practice questioning you so that you can work through the repressed memories that hold you back from cultivating love and self-control.